on friendships, old and new

Friendships are weird, especially those established during adolescents. It’s a murky time where we change who we are and what we believe in almost as often as we change our underwear. We want to be cool, we don’t want to conform. We want to try everything and have everyone as our friend, but we also want a little tight-knit group. We don’t really know what we want and will only find out by trying every. Little. Thing. That’s okay. That’s how we find who we are, those of us who haven’t had it established from the day they set foot inside their pre-school. That’s most people, I feel. But then, you can be made out to be a poser or a fake just because your tastes “changed,” but you actually do still listen to Band X, you just like the older stuff ~snicker snicker~ Eventually, though, you will fall into your group.

And that group is amazing, or even, multiple groups. That’s right, some friendships never come together, but you can have multiple groups of people whose company you enjoy. It is possible to find, grow, and maintain a relationship such as friendship over a long period of time, even through adolescents. I feel those that can grow with you and see you through the truly difficult moments as we are growing into adults are the strongest friendships. Those have not only stood the test of time, but the test of hardship, and naturally, tests of quarreling. The other groups can form in other ways, whether through familial connections (a cousin of a cousin of a cousin) or work connections, there are other small groups formed. Those can be just as loving as the first group, but it’s always the first group that takes priority over the others simply due to time. Time spent laughing, loving, crying, learning, growing. It’s those friendships that make those awkward adolescent moments bearable, in retrospect.

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